Still here

I just wanted to post a note to say that my blog is still here, just not at the painslutlois.com address anymore.

Unfortunately while I was away with work the domain expired and someone managed to purchase (aka steal!) it before I could get it renewed and I’ve been unable to acquire it back, consequently the blog is back on it’s original address of https://secretsubslut.wordpress.com/.

Whilst I’ve not been posting updates on here for some time (I don’t really know what to write anymore without just rehashing things I’ve written about before) I am still working on my Fet Library site and improvements and new features are always getting added, for instance I am testing a direct messaging feature on there as of yesterday.

Please come and check out the site, add stories if you have them, read and review stories and share the link everywhere you go!

I hope you are all keeping safe at this very worrying time in the world and using the time indoors wisely by exploring all sorts of new kinks!

He’s coming!

It’s nearly the end of the year, can you believe that? The end of the year I got married no less! It’s been probably my best one yet, Miss Fiona and I are very happy and loving our new life together. The house is pretty much done to our liking, including that naughty little room below the ground which we’ve spent many a memorable night, and day, in.

Thank you for all the nice messages and good wishes you sent around the wedding, I really loved reading them and replied to as many as I could. I am still about, mostly on FetLife and do get round to replying to messages eventually but my priority these days is my job, my home and my wife (slash Mistress!).

If you miss reading about my sub life then you might find these other blogs worth checking out:

MLSlavePuppet (https://mlslavepuppet.com/)
I’ve been in touch with her on and off for a while and I really enjoy reading about her burgeoning relationship with her Mistress (also named Lois). She posts often and gets up to some really fun looking things.

StudentSlave (https://studentslave.wordpress.com/)
She is very new to the scene and has just started at university where she has made plans to expand her BDSM horizons. It will be interesting to see where it goes.

I hope you are all well and enjoying your own kinky lives as much as I am and if I don’t speak to you have a wonderfully, lovely and kinky Christmas!

Finding someone

Hey everyone, Happy New Year, I hope you had a great time on New Years Eve and are looking forward to 2019, I certainly am! I’m getting married this year, how weird is that?!

Anyway, whilst I do intend to post here more often then I have been, starting with an update on my 2018 goals (spoiler alert, I didn’t complete them all!) this isn’t that post. This post is about helping someone I know get in touch with the type of people who might read my blog.

The girl in question has been reading my blog and been in contact with me for over six years, I have met her in person on a couple of occasions and can confirm that she is a real, sweet, beautiful woman. However, for various reasons she has zero online presence on non-Vanilla sites, she is the ultimate “lurker” (Sorry hun!) which makes it very difficult for her to get in touch with people to do what she has decided to do.

What is that you may ask. Well she is looking for an online only Dom or Domme to give her tasks to complete, control aspects of her life and generally have some kinky fun with but in a very anonymous way, quite similar to what I used to do through this blog and with various people over the years.

There are a few caveats but the main ones are that she will not share any information about her identity, she is restricted somewhat by her home life and will not share any pictures of herself. She wants to feel controlled and likes the idea of a contract being involved (written by you) and has assured me she is willing to go quite far within the limits that get set in the contract.

If you would be interested in such an arrangement then please leave a comment on this post making sure you are either logged into a wordpress account off that you enter your email address when commenting and I will pass your address on to her so that she can share more detail about herself and what she is looking for and see if you are compatible.

Thanks for reading and check back soon for an update from me xx

Merry Christmas

I hope all my readers have a wonderful Christmas xxx

I will be at my mothers for Christmas Day with my beautiful Mistress Fiona who promises to make sure I’m incredible uncomfortable and wriggly throughout Christmas dinner, I can’t wait!

Anniversary

Anniversary

Wow, ten years, that’s a long time. Admittedly a lot of that time the blog has been dormant waiting for me to come back and pick up where I left off but still, it feels like an achievement!

The reason I have been away this time is because things were getting bad with my health again, work was getting extremely stressful, plus we have been renovating the new house, organising our wedding, my mother has been ill and something had to give which ended up being my online presence.

That’s not to say this isn’t important to me, my readers and the people I talk to online, you really are but probably less important than all of the things listed above, sorry! I have some things to write about and I’ll be getting on that as soon as I can.

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Back to it

BackToIt

I’m so out of practice writing that I feel like this is going to end up being a terrible post, which isn’t great for my first one in a while so I’ll apologise now and get it out of the way, sorry!

Tons has happened since I last wrote properly which was July I think, that’s probably why the stats on here are so bad! I went on holiday, I decided to build an erotic fiction website, we moved into the new house, we set a date for the wedding and booked a venue….it’s a lot, I’ve been busy so maybe you’ll forgive the hiatus from posting.

As per the first paragraph… This was intended to be one big post starting with all the “boring” stuff of what I’ve been up to whilst I’ve not been posting and then going on to talk about all the fun stuff we got up to on holiday. However I’m struggling to write the second part and effectively express it so I’m going to post this part and then next week you’ll get the juices sexy stuff.

So yeah, we finally completed on the sale of Mistresses house and the purchase of our new home together. Despite my being a solicitor it has been quite a prolonged and stressful thing and I’m so glad it is over and we’re finally in.

The house is a mess though, we knew it needed work but somewhere in between deciding to buy the place and moving in we seemed to forget how much work it really needed. So far we’ve had two rooms decorated though, the lounge and our bedroom and they both look gorgeous. We’ve had someone come in a look at making the basement into a proper liveable room and that plan is on the back burner for the moment, it’s going to be a huge job just to get it to a point that we can begin making it into a dungeon, the toys will have to stay in the toy chest for the time being.

The other news, we went to see a venue for the wedding and we both absolutely fell in love with it so we have booked it. It’s an outdoor venue which is a risk with the weather in the UK but it’s too beautiful a place not to do it there. We’ll be getting married in June 2019, which means we have a ton of stuff to organise before then. We started putting a guest list together and it’s already out of hand!

Amidst all of this I decided to set up a new website! Mistress said I was crazy to even attempt this but when, whilst on holiday, I discovered that a website that I frequented since I got into the bdsm scene has fallen into abandonment I was upset enough at it’s loss to want to do something about it. At first I tried to contact the owner of the site to see if they wanted to sell the site to me but, like everyone else who tried, I got no response. Then I tried posting in the forums and like I mentioned before that got me a lifetime ban so I gave up on that idea.

Instead, whilst still in Portugal, I registered www.thefetlibrary.com and got to work when I got home. I learn some basic web coding skills a long time ago but they were rustier than my first pair of handcuffs so I had to watch some training videos and stumble my way through making the basic site. Eventually I recruited my sister’s boyfriend who is a professional software developer and he helped write some of the more complex stuff and later, fix all the mistakes I made that caused the site to come down last weekend!

So the site is up and people are using it, go and enjoy the content and see what you think. There is a forum there now too which I’m hoping people will use www.thefetlibrary.cafe and will grow into a thriving bdsm community. If you haven’t taken a look please do so, read stories, sign up to the forums and join the conversations or start one, post the link to the library wherever you can and get the word out. Thank you.

I promise next weeks post will be worth the read x

It’s alive!

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https://www.thefetlibrary.com

I know I’ve banged on about this a lot and not provided any real content on here since before I went on holiday but that will change soon I promise. That’s because after a ton of work over the last three weeks the site is finally live!

As of today the site is officially out of testing and is accepting new users and hopefully, new authors!

If you have written any fetish fiction then please sign up and upload it tot he site. If you know anyone who is an author send them a link. If you have a blog, are active on a forum or on twitter then please share the link as far and wide as you can.

For those of you that just want to hear about my crazy life I will be posting very soon about some of the antics that we got up to on holiday including how we (mainly Miss) thoroughly corrupted another couple that we met in a bar!

The Fet Library

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As I’ve mentioned in my previous couple of posts I am starting a new website which will hopefully pick up where the BDSM Library dropped off.

It’s a lot of work! More than I considered to be honest but we’re (myself and someone helping me with the code) getting through it in our spare time and are hoping to have version 1.0 out at the end of this week (although that might be a bit ambitious!).

When it does go live I’ll need all of your help to get the word out about it if you are willing. Blogs, Tumblr, Twitter, Forums, anywhere you can help advertise the new site would be a massive help! More details to come.

Thanks
Lo xx

A new venture

I got back from a holiday in Portugal with Mistress a couple of days ago which is why I haven’t posted in a while. I could have posted while I was away but decided to just relax, in fact I spent a full four days whilst there without wearing any clothing at all, it’s quite liberating!

I like to read and specifically I like to read BDSM stories which is what got me into writing my own. From the very early days of my exploring BDSM I did this on a website called bdsmlibrary.com which I am sure many of you will be familiar with. What you may not know is that new stories have only been added there once since April 2017 and that it doesn’t look like the site will be maintained any longer.

I was quite dismayed to discover this as that site was a staple for my entire adult life and a great outlet for many talented BDSM writers out there. There are lots of comments on the forums about the seeming abandonment of the site and I have tried to contact the owner through various channels with no response.

So I decided that I would try and carry the torch of bdsmlibrary myself and set up a new site that caters for just the “stories” part of that site, i.e. not all the other commercial stuff that is on there. I did talk about this on the bdsmlibrary forums but that got me a swift lifetime ban from the forums which I am quite upset about as I was only trying to help the community and a few people were quite receptive to the idea.

The new site is currently under construction which may take a little while as my coding skills are very out of date (it’s years since I did any) and it is quite a lot of work, I’ve mentioned before that I am very busy haven’t I?! Mistress thinks I am crazy for taking on the project but I think it is something I could really give back to a community who really helped me through some lonely and unfulfilling times in my life.

The site will be called The Fet Library and I will update you when it starts to take shape as I will need as much help as possible to get the word out and get people using the site.

That’s all for now, Lo xx